By Leslie Gossett // Have you ever noticed how often humans operate from the premise of there being a problem? Whatever is happening, it is not the right thing. There is something to be fixed. The coffee isn’t strong enough. The temperature is too hot. It’s too cold. We are hungry. We are stuffed. We are tired. We don’t want to go to bed. It’s completely endless. We even take this extreme into how we relate to other people. We begin to view them through the eyes of wanting them to be different. We want them to look differently, feel differently, and act differently. This desire can be subtle. And usually it happens most toward those closest to us, especially our children. Children are constantly and exhaustingly bombarded with admonitions of, “stop that,” “sit still,” “be quiet,” “we don’t say that,” “you can’t do that here,” “stop crying,” “stop running,” “don’t put that there,” “act like a big girl,” “don’t be a baby,” and the list could go on. Adults are not exempt from such …